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5 Whys commitment doesn't have to be a burden, cause struggle or complication. Tools, insights and new ways to understand how commitment gives you more freedom and greater opportunity.
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[00:00:03] Welcome to the making of you. I'm Alexandria, founder of TheMasteryProject.com and YourTransformationHub.com and I'd like to welcome you now to episode 31 of our podcast series, and it's entitled Five Ways Commitment is Life Changing. Well, if you have listened to any of my other episodes, you will know that I'm a bit of a setup queen in the sense that I do like a foundation of understanding in order to move forward. And in this world, our languaging and our messaging is transforming constantly and consciously. I would like to hope. And so I always discuss the foundation of whatever we're talking about. So what does commitment actually mean?
[00:00:51] Well, as far as I'm concerned, commitment is a state of being first and foremost. So what makes up that state of being? Well, if you want to make a commitment, you could see it as a foundation, a contract, an agreement, a way, shall we say, to align within yourself and to move forward on what you want to create. Now, the key for me in number one is that commitment is all about being in your heart center, and it starts there. And this is one of the fundamental alignment issues with commitment, because a lot of people see commitment as a mental exercise, so something you do in your head rather than begin it in your heart. Now, also, if you've listened to any of my episodes, you'll know I'm a big fan of something I call the heart mind alignment. And so you could say, oh, but Alexandria, there's mental aspects to commitment. I'm getting to that. Number two, but for any core creative empowerment to occur, we do need to be first and foremost aligned in our heart centers. So commitment starts in the heart and think of it perhaps as a state of being that supports any creative process. And it also highlights the importance of the state of being. Why? Because your heart center is literally fuel or energy central. It's the way that you can connect with your unique connection, your greater, universal, all that is all oneness, whatever you want to call it, it's the energy that flows through you and creates your life experience in accordance with the choices that you're making.
[00:02:44] So in the state of commitment, if you're in your heart center, then you're connected beautifully and authentically with that energy. Because you're already saying, I need to be open hearted to be committed. Because the nature of commitment, of course, is very strongly aligned with our capacity to respond. So if you're going to respond through being in commitment, then you're going to need to be in your heart center to do that, because your heart center responds, and generally speaking, your mind reacts. Now, when I say react, I simply mean that it's not a heart origin energy. All right? Doesn't make it bad, doesn't make it good, but it is definitely a difference in the essential alignment. So when you commit to anything, the first thing you've got to say to yourself, am I in my heart? Am I aligned in my heart about this. Now, obviously, we've got daily commitments, like children, like our home, like our work, our job.
[00:03:47] So, yes, for a lot of people, that is a tough question, particularly for the work. One, simply because the commitment is often to do with a financial trajectory, not necessarily doing what you love. So I'm just flagging, all right, that commitment. If you have a huge amount already, it might be a great idea for you to ask yourself, what is my heart dream truly in? Because that's a great way to examine the true commitments. And also, if you're committed to things and it doesn't seem to be creating very effectively, it's another great question to ask yourself to go back to the origin foundation and the creative foundation of that commitment.
[00:04:32] Okay, number two, I promised you I was going to get to the heart mind alignment. Right? Right. One of the biggest issues with commitment, if you think it starts in your head, not your heart. Now, when I talk about head, I'm not talking about consciousness. I'm talking about the mind that has to administrate your life. And of course, we are all practical. We live in both the physical and other dimensions of ourselves. But we do have to provide. We do need to get to work. We do need to do very important and practical things day in, day out. So commitment is part of that. But I'd like you to see that the commitment is actually to doing and being. Now, I've covered in number one, that the being portion is to anchor and originate your commitment in the heart center. So try your best to be in alignment with what you love and what is joyous. But secondly, it's not to alienate your head. All right? You've got to, at some point be able to. To go down this creative pathway. So to realize what your heart's in, to actualize that connectedness, and of course, to practicalize it in your daily life.
[00:05:41] Now, the problem is when people let their ego drag them into their head, immediately go, oh, I've got to commit, then it becomes a trying foundation. Now, what do I mean by that? Well, you can hear a lot of people going, I'm trying to get this done, I'm really trying to make a difference, but actually they're in their heads, not origined in the commitment in their heart center. So they haven't actually asked themselves, how would I feel creating this? How do I feel getting involved in this? They've actually said, oh, I should do it, or, oh, it's got to be done. And so you're walking down the road with the ego of projections. Now, trying is a state where there isn't actually a whole lot of energy connected because we've dashed out of our heart center, the origin, and the most energetically supportive fuel connection that we can have and gone into our heads and gone right immediately. We've got to sketch the practicality, we've got to write the list, but we're in a space where there's not that much fuel, all right? Particularly if you have a very mental life rather than a life where you're considering both. So my number two point is with commitment, don't rush into your head, please look at the heartfelt connectedness. So look at my favourite thing, heart mind alignment. So do you have an overlap between how you think you're going to do it and how you want to feel when you're creating it? And that is the key to a commitment. So by all means, as I said, realize, actualize and practicalize, but remember the origin. And it can be tough sometimes to say to yourself, you know, am I really committed to this? And you've got to go into a quiet place and ask yourself, the truth is, don't believe in it, don't agree with it, or I'm doing it because I should, not because I'm actually committed.
[00:07:38] So with commitments, yes, by all means, look at, as of course, your personal truth, like I've said, but also with your mind, just keep it neutral, all right? Don't do any shuddery on yourself, all right? Oh, it should be this, should be that. Can't let that person down. Yes, of course you can't. But you have to be in that space where you're originally committed. So the key to that is also to make a little mini contract with yourself. Now, this can be done through writing it down. This can be done through acknowledging within yourself in a quiet moment about asking that question, are you committed? Feeling the feelings, feeling the resonance, feeling how you align with that particular circumstance.
[00:08:24] So just remember for number two, keep your heart and mind aligned, all right? So of course commitment is going to have a practical situation arising, all right? Because you're going to agree so to do something that Comes from the commitment. But don't rush into that project, into trying, and then start basically forcing yourself outside of the energy and fuel that is the most important to get the job done.
[00:08:56] So for me, I always recommend to people, earth it, ground it. But first of all, ask yourself, so how can you do that? Like I said, you can write a contract with yourself.
[00:09:06] Literally. We do it every day. We write lists about what we want to achieve. And that is, I think, an excellent way to connect in with your heart, Connect in with that sort of nature of the essence of not only doing something you believe in, but also, you know, yielding or. Or really distilling the meaning and purpose of what it is. So write it down and understand it also is an excellent way to look at when one is overloaded about how much one is, you know, really looking to achieve. And that can also be a really great way to balance your heart mind alignment. Okay, number three. Well, harmonizing heart mind alignment will create some emotional disturbance, all right? But also, I look at it, and I always tell parents, I always tell people who have a lot of responsibilities and a lot of commitments. Again, is there any way that you can balance these up? So my third point is, if you want to harmonize, yes, you, heart, mind alignment is the key. Start from the origin, all right? Check that you're not taking on things that you truly don't believe in and that you don't have the energy or commitment for. But secondly, how can you help others, particularly in a family circumstance, understand commitment. Now, I am a baby from a parent who was a lot older or. My mother was nearly 43 when she had me, and she grew up in the 20s, believe it or not. So she was constantly, from a very early age, having grown up or experienced the aftermath of first world war and then lived through driving ambulances in the second world war. She was no stranger to being responsible and taking on commitments early, early in her life. All right? So she passed that down to me. Now, I think it's a really important element of parenting in today's world, which is, of course, digitally very exciting. But it's equally an issue that for all of us, we are getting that instant gratification of the digital. I know it all because I pressed a button, and we're perhaps dialing back badly in the sense of falling away from the core practicalities. So I think commitment and handing commitment to people. Two children saying, dudes, that's your commitment. Write it down, tell me what you need to do. Work it out is a really exciting and fulfilling way to teach a really positive approach to commitment. So the earlier young people learn it, the earlier it will be natural, which fundamentally it is. But I think we can all say our society is perhaps attempting to show our world is a lot more unnatural or a lot harder or more strugglesome than it need to be.
[00:12:06] So back yourself, you know, teach that element of commitment as not being something you've got to struggle through. It's something that you can really ace because you've actually bothered to say, do I feel it, do I believe in it? And how am I going to commit to it? In the practical, Write it down, make that contract with yourself. So a really strong way to commit and back yourself.
[00:12:30] Okay, number four. Well, a lot of people will see commitments as burdens. Now I know perhaps when we get older we are wiser about what we believe or we're wiser about what we want to take on. But for a lot of people this is filtering down to the younger portions of our population who can sometimes appear to say, well, commitment equals burden.
[00:12:56] So I always say to people, don't have that perception from the outset because you're shutting out one of the most essential parts of life that are, you know, really potentially going to be building your relationship with responsibility and with all of the natural and normal ways to, to relate to our world and to be successful in it. So please don't see commitment as a burden. But the biggest burden is when we kind of lie to ourselves or cheat ourselves by saying, oh, I should do it, when we're actually not believing in it. So it's the key of finding out what's self loving, understanding the difference between what we like and what we actually love and taking a few extra moments to consider it and being aware that it's not a burden from origin, it's just a choice and an option.
[00:13:52] Okay, number five, well, what are we going to look at to summarize? Well, I think commitment is one of the best ways, if we can harness it in that flowful understanding, to use our energy really wisely. All right, Now a lot of people are scattering or wasting their energy simply because literally they're committed to things that they actually don't agree with, don't believe in, or their heart's not in. So one of the greatest self commitments I would recommend to everyone is to be in alignment with what you do believe in, what you believe will make a difference and to be really clear about valuing your own creativity, valuing that energy, putting your energy into things that are uplifting, that are hopeful people that are supportive that are getting the job done that reinforce everything that you enjoy and love to do and love to be.
[00:14:49] Alrighty. Well, it's been my great pleasure today to talk about commitment and I hope that this has been helpful for you. And if you like more content, then please don't hesitate to visit the websites and also to look for example, at the blog section if you'd like some help. If you want your next step in your new direction. Then again, check out the Life Alchemy consultations on YourTransformationHub. Com. Thank you very much.
