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5 Whys to harness the Superpower benefits of listening. How does listening help your creativity as much as doing? Gain insights, tools and wisdoms to energize, magnetize and realize your dream easily with the empowerment of listening.
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[00:00:02] Welcome to the making of you. I'm Alexandria, founder of the Mastery Project and YourTransformationHub.com and today this is episode 37 of our podcast and it's entitled Five Whys. Listening is an underrated superpower. So let's dive in. And my number one is I think we do need to listen to what actually listening is all right, and why people today might find it a lot harder to listen than, let's say, 20 or 30 years ago.
[00:00:38] So listening, of course, is us being attentive and sensitive to our environment. We're looking, of course, to hear people's words and also to generally understand and glean wisdom from any communication and opportunities to learn. But as we know, the outside has got lots of different guises, lots of formats. And also the outside authority has been grabbing at our attention in the last 20 years with an increasing degree of shoutiness, demanding attention, asking us to purchase things, asking us to like, asking us basically to put a lot of our energy outside of ourselves. So why do we find it hard to concentrate on listening to others or perhaps listening and learning? Or why does everything sort of seem to go through us perhaps, and out the other side and we don't really retain much? Well, it can simply be that the demands of that over stimulating environment have caused us to lose our balance point. So if you do find it hard to listen or hard to pay attention or concentrate in a learning environment, then I recommend to people that literally you breathe in balance and breathe in a very constructive either visual representation for yourself of a loving relationship with yourself, or a sense of balance. Or literally just close your eyes and breathe so you can focus, be calm with self and then get into learning, get into listening, whatever is happening.
[00:02:22] So a lot of people just simply use the breath to reconnect inside and also to find, as I've said, that productive and supportive balance point. So if you find yourself overstimulated, you might want to try that. If you find it hard to listen, you can also look at why you zone out or why you say, God, everything's boring and I'm not really that interested. So there is a big temptation to switch off now a lot of the time it can be that there's routine or literally sort of rudimentary or repetitive things to be done, and perhaps they don't need your full attention. But listening is an incredible gift for all of us, not only the learning, but also the abilities to develop other capacities within ourselves. So if we can look at how we're receiving and perhaps, yeah, mix out, tune out certain aspects that we don't want, but also don't be afraid to simplify because that is an excellent way to reduce being overstimulated. And also sort of bouncing around in your head quite a lot or moving from one extreme to the other, be it emotional or mental stress. It's really good simply to say, right, I don't need to deal with that, that, and that be because it's actually not an essential part or a productive part for yourself.
[00:03:51] Okay, number two, so if you are listening to someone talking to you, then of course, it's a wonderful way to get to know someone. But also it's a great understanding exercise in all respects. What listening does for you is it not only dials you into what they're saying intellectually or the information they're sharing, all the questions they're asking you, it dials you in to who they are. Now, I personally believe there's not enough focus in our daily lives on this sheer amazing connection that we all have, our unique perspective and our unique wisdom so we can learn and grow and transform as we grow and as we become more aware of ourselves and the way that we relate. So is, don't be afraid to listen. Because there's an old adage, if someone tells you who they are, listen. All right, so one of the key ways to better understand and be, perhaps, like Leonardo da Vinci said, a student of human nature is by the power of listening and to allow people to speak their truth. Allow people to show you the type of qualities, the type of foundation that's really important to them in their lives, and also what they're sharing of themselves. Because listening is a wonderful way to understand what another person actually is, unconditionally giving or unconditionally revealing.
[00:05:28] So for those who don't like to listen, you can have issues where there are the requirements within them to be much more centre of attention, if you will, or it's simply they have a job where they might speak for their profession, like teaching, or they're constantly guiding people, like being, for example, a nurse or a doctor, someone who is literally paid to talk to people, to give them advice. So for me, just remember that when you are listening, you're hearing not only the factuality and the opportunity to learn, but you're also feeling that person and hearing who they are and how they're addressing you, how they're imparting their information.
[00:06:16] And also you're feeling that particular exchange, if you will, about whether they're, you know, in a space of enthusiasm or Whether they're lecturing you. And so listening can really help you understand how to get the best out of that listening exchange. All right, okay, number three.
[00:06:41] So listening is a focus also for that deeper sentence that I was just talking about. So understanding, if you resonate with someone, understanding their sense of authenticity, are they telling you porcupine lies or are they being authentic? Are they being supportive? Are they trying to sell you something?
[00:07:02] Are they actually there for your best interests or there as a neutral and supportive advisor? So I think when you listen, sometimes even I've seen people listen and close their eyes and listen to someone intently. And I think that is very much a truth dar moment, they are connecting in with the truth and essence of what that person is conveying. So listening in that way, you can hear a whole range of, you know, sentience and sensitivities that perhaps would be missed if we're rushing a conversation or we're not fully dedicated to it. So also allowing that person to communicate thoroughly and at their own pace, not interrupting, allowing that flow, we can also build skills like looking at body language, understanding all of the unspoken signs from a person, whether they're open hearted, whether they're self soothing with their arms crossed, whether they're shut down, whether they're avoiding the conversation, the sense of showing you they wish they weren't there. So all these techniques of observation and actually fully getting a much bigger picture of what that person represents is for me a lot to do with the commitment and surrender that I think we all need to listen. Particularly if we're a kind of go, go, go person who really likes to be out front or likes to be taking the lead and perhaps isn't that keen on listening. I of course spend a lot of my life listening because I'm consulting on personal transformation and I need to really listen to where people are at. So I strongly recommend, and I believe that if people listened to so much more in their lives, then they would actually have so much more of a smooth and self loving journey. Because I also believe when we can hone into that exchange, we can actually understand the ambient influences and also the possibilities around us and be connected in a glorious alignment. And that person is in a way the anchor to achieve that and the exchange to achieve it.
[00:09:27] Okay, number four. Well, obviously good listeners can be great friends. All right? And I think listening is a fantastic superpower when building relationships in all shapes and form and of course building these type of spiritual tools such as compassion and support.
[00:09:50] So a lot of people will say, well, compassion, you know, the willingness perhaps to listen to people in times of trouble. Well, I do agree that I think compassionate people will make space for people who aren't necessarily in the best frame of mind and might need a shoulder to cry on. But the biggest aspect of compassion is also balance. So that recognition in relating skills that we can't live someone's life for them. We can advise or we can listen. We can allow them to kind of talk themselves into the perfect self loving solution at that moment. It might change, but give them the space and the kind of loving matrix of exchange that they can get into that realization of what needs to change and how to embrace that. All right, so yes, I take it as a ultimate compliment in my work because a lot of people go, oh, I haven't been a good friend, I haven't called, you might be in trouble, but here I am, what do you recommend? Etc? And I always just say that is a huge compliment that people would call me in times of difficulty because hey, don't we all want to be in that connectedness and to be of support and help because what goes around comes around. And if we are capable of listening, then we're going to be in a situation where we will always be able to attract to ourselves people who are prepared to listen to us in times of difficulty and also who are prepared to utilize the very important tools of life called compassion and support.
[00:11:30] So it does strengthen ourselves in understanding, relating, listening, and also it helps us understand energy flows. So some people go, oh God, I don't want to, you know, bump into that person. They've always got a load of problems. But what I say to people is if you don't like listening because you know there's someone you work with who's quite negative, always moaning, or you know, someone who appears to drag others down. It's a great discipline with learning how to listen, to simply be in a space where you are not drained, that you are sitting there in balance and in neutrality, not feeling sorry for the person. You're waiting for an appropriate time where you can interject with some alternatives and some options and some suggestions about how they can change their circumstances. Also, you're not getting sucked in to being burdened by them, thinking that you need to make them feel better. So the key with listening is simply to listen, not to take on other people's vibrational level, all right? But to be in compassion and say, have you tried this?
[00:12:46] Would you, you know, consider changing that and to interject and suggest when the time is right.
[00:12:55] So number four, listening can really help you build friendship. It can help you appreciate what goes around, comes around. But also it can help you understand the dynamics of energy in relating.
[00:13:07] Alrighty. Okay, so number five. Well, if you get bored listening, then I'm just flagging it here. That can be that the ego and the mind would care, of course, to be occupied with something a lot more interesting. All right? So just remember that being able to concentrate, being able to address what is in front of oneself is a really big skill in life because sometimes you've got to adapt. So sometimes you have to do stuff you don't like. All right? And I think we all need to appreciate that just because it's not necessarily top of our list of faves, it is sometimes that listening is actually one of the greatest focusing disciplines and self combining, if you like, sort of reinforcing a lot of gifts that perhaps we've put, you know, behind or sort of forgotten or put on this shelf. So things like focusing, all right? Things like the capacity to adapt. So if people say, oh, have you got a minute? Then just remember not to label automatically or they're boring or they always need help and they're not listening, but also to say to self, what part of me is kind of like a little bit, you know, reluctant to help? Or what part of me is dismissing what's happening in my reality? And I need to be open. I need to be open hearted and open minded. And I do need to recognize that life is a whole big journey of twists and turns and being able to adapt is actually a very important superpower along with listening.
[00:14:51] Okay, well, I really hope that you enjoyed today and that you might think to listen in future to different things. It could be bird song, could be someone in trouble, could be a beautiful symphony, but that the listening gives you a great opportunity to feel that space in the cosmic plan as much as to move ahead in life and learn and apply what you've learned for wisdom, prosperity and to enjoy yourself. And if you like this content, then please don't hesitate to Visit the websites. YourTransformationHub.com We've got, gosh, over 40 episodes now of the podcast past. So please pass on by and check those out if you'd like. And you can listen direct on the website or you can also look at the blog. There's lots of great articles because we've got some really big things happening in astrology and in the consciousness collectively this year in 25 and moving forward in 26, 7 and 8. So check out the articles on Neptune in Aries and Saturn in Aries. And also if you're a bit of an astrology nut, then please check out your year and what's happening for you and what's supporting you in creating some great joy and fulfillment this year. Thank you very much.
