Episode Transcript
Welcome to the Making of you. I'm Alexandria and I'm the founder of Your Transformation Hub and The Mastery Project.
And this podcast is dedicated to understanding the whys and ways to transform the tough stuff, everyday stuff, not only into doable, but enjoyable and successful, while becoming the architect of your own life.
Let's get into it. So today we have five ways to stop dimming yourself down.
Okay, my number one. Well, dimming yourself down, what does that actually mean?
Often, it simply means we feel that we are hitting a ceiling in our lives. We're not getting what we want, we're always disappointed, or we're feeling generally that we might be a victim of our circumstances rather than a master creator.
So how can we start transforming that? Well, dimming yourself down can come in many shapes and sizes. All right? For me, it's a simple choice. Do you want to choose loving consciousness, or do you want to choose fearful consciousness?
Sometimes, yes, fearful consciousness comes in a very stable package that looks very attractive, but it actually has no options to expand.
So I always say to people, you've got to go within. You've got to take a few private moments and find some quiet space and go within and ask yourself about your alignment. So whenever you're making choices about important things and you are worried about dimming yourself down, the key is to say, am I choosing from love or am I choosing from fear?
Now, common aspects with fear are you're going to have less control, you're going to have less choice, you're going to be perhaps potentially paying a cost.
In the long term, it can be that you're going to be losing out. It can also be that you are going to feel a bit of a victim. In the long term, loving consciousness is always going to help you expand. Now, I'm not saying it will be comfortable, all right? Because often one of the first reasons we've dimmed ourselves down and we find that situation is because we have been rejecting opportunity and we've been sort of building a comfort zone.
So, yes, when you're being loving, you can also feel a little bit uncomfortable because, of course, you're making an expansion. You are daring to dream that you are brighter, more radiant, more capable, more worthy than you have been. So you're going to be challenging that comfort zone. So you're going to be challenging the dimness.
So there will be a temporary trepidation. There always is. Because when we are authentically moving forward and transforming, of course we're going to be doing something different, and we are going to Be choosing change, choosing transformation. And of course that means we are going to be embracing the unknown.
So we're dimming yourself down. Choose the loving option, all right? You're always going to be supported by the greater universe. Why? Because the greater universe is unlimited energy.
Now, if you don't like the term love, then you can say unlimited energy.
So an element of connectedness, of all that is, of even divine presence, whatever you relate to, but knowing that it is always present, it's always there to help you if you want to choose it. And it is always going to be flowing through your life, making up your very molecules and the essence of yourself, all those who surround you, your relationship with your communities and the relationship with the planet.
So if you don't want to dim yourself down, choose the loving consciousness. Give yourself the capacity to expand, give yourself the capacity to unlimit, to give yourself more opportunity. Show the greater universe that you want to co create. Co create. That you want to be helped, that you want to connect with that unlimited fuel.
So the unconditionally loving energy that is unending, how do you connect with it? Well, you don't hang out in your mind exclusively, all right? There's an element of you, of course, that the mind is useful, but you are also aware that your heart portal is incredibly important in the creative process. And also that when you're in your mind, a lot of people can tend towards the masculine, all right? They're planning, doing, or they're doing. And doing is only for 50% of our world, all right? Receiving, being a cosmic receiver for that unlimited energy is the other part, the being.
So just because you're not doing or when you're being doesn't mean to say it's not useful.
So choose love over fear, all right? Always, okay? And be aware that it is going to be temporarily uncomfortable, but it can also be incredibly inspiring and exhilarating too.
So, number two, how are you going to fuel this? Well, you're going to use 100% of your resources with the heart, mind alignment. So you're going to say, yes, I need my mind to administrate my life. I need to make sketches and plans and lists. But first and foremost, I'm going to go into my heart, which is that unlimited portal. I'm going to be in alignment with the fuel. I'm going to put my cosmic antenna up and basically receive and magnetize and consciously ask for that energy and then focus it into the dream. The choice, the responsibility, the commitment that I'm making.
So when you are Self loving. When you are choosing loving consciousness, that's exactly what you're doing. You're going into that space of the unlimited receiving portal which is your heart. So you won't be doing anything outside yourself. You'll be sitting in silence listening.
Now I've got other episodes about listening. Please have a little look at the superpower that is listening. And one of the most important thing is of course listening to yourself. Our external authority tells us what we should buy, who we should be, what we should look like. There's a lot of judgments, opinions and a lot of conditioning outside of ourselves.
Do we need to choose it? No, we don't. Is it helpful sometimes? Is it not helpful sometimes? And when we dim ourselves down, we often take a ready made opinion and use that rather than choose to listen to ourselves. Yes, it could be that that opinion is resonant to us.
But the quickest way truly is to go inside yourself and do the check and say, does that resonate with me? Do I agree with that? Do I feel in alignment with that? Okay. And that is going to mean that you're in your heart and you're able of course to use all of your resources and fuel whatever creative responsibility you are moving into.
So unlimiting yourself, stopping the dimness is a responsibility.
Now I know people go, responsibility is a burden and it's just, it drags you down. No it doesn't. If you can do it from balance. If we're in our head and we're poorly connected to our heart, then of course we've got not a great fuel supply coming in. And as a result we can feel dragged down because we think that being in our heads is going to create more activity or more action or more doing. But actually we're missing the fuel that's required when we sit with ourselves in alignment. And we need that in order to complete the whole process.
So with self loving behavior, understand what you truly want, choose and respond. And that is actually what responsibility, responsibility essentially is all right? It's not burdens, it's not struggling, it's not having to do a lot of things and being stressed. Responsibility actually is simply our capacity to respond.
So when we do that, we're in our heart center and we're balancing that immaterial pure energy that's coming through our heart and we're putting it into our minds with our sketch, with our plan, with our list of what we want to create.
Okay, so that's number two. Please use your heart mind alignment and create from a balanced foundation to undim yourself.
All right, then, number three. Well, a lot of people, when they're undoing themselves, they go, right, I'm going to break out. I'm going to make a leap of faith, which is wonderful, courageous and right there.
But also they can overextend or have very high expectations, or force themselves or push themselves into the future again, disconnecting somewhat from their heart center and fuel.
So my number three is, please, if you want to undim yourself, don't give yourself unrealistic expectations, okay? Don't load yourself up with a ton of things that you're going to do.
Really start from a point of balance. That doesn't mean you're not capable of incredible leaps of faith. But I'll tell you, anyone who is successful in their world, they don't normally talk about the decades of, of work that they've put in before their success finally locks in, if you like, in their cosmic jigsaw.
They talk about that point of success and moving forward because they're actually not living in the past, okay? But there have been steps on this journey. And so it is for everyone who wants to undim themselves to recognize that you're going to have a, you know, 60 watt bulb, then you're going to have an 80 watt bulb, and then you're going to have a hundred watt bulb.
Your light is going to progressively radiate higher and higher frequencies. And it's a journey. And that's why you require patience. You don't want to go and put yourself into huge expectations like a big elastic band stretch up to the sky and then ping back and get slapped sort of down and go, oh, I failed, it didn't work, or I did something wrong or I'm useless. And then find yourself running into the arms of your ego that then either beats you, beats you up, or confirms that you're a victim.
So the key with undimming yourself is do it progressively, all right? And recognize that there will be initiations, there will be shifts in your life, there will be aspects that you are going to need to adapt to.
And so give yourself a step by step process and celebrate what you're achieving as you undim yourself and recognize it and acknowledge it and avoid going on that roller coaster of I've got everything, I've got nothing, I've got everything, I've got nothing. All right? Because that is exhausting. And it will literally potentially bring you into a place where you're more dimmed down because you're basically frantically overstretching yourself. And that isn't harmony. And that isn't fueling yourself with 100% of your resources.
Okay, number four, right. I don't know if you've heard the phrase what we resist persists.
So there can be a lot to do with dimming ourselves down with burdens and resistances. So what do I mean by that? Well, you can have two forms of resistance. The one I just explained in number three, which is dashing into the future and putting ourselves under huge amount of pressure to do a whole heap of extraordinary things in five seconds. All right. It can also be not being willing to let go of past experiences, the ones that weren't very comfortable, the ones where we felt we failed, the ones where we felt we were ridiculed or that we lost out, or that was something that was extremely difficult to forgive.
So what happens with those particular burdens?
If we're carrying them well, they are going to take energy. And when we carry them for too long, of course, being unable to let go of them, being unable to recycle them, then we are going to have a situation where we dim ourselves down.
So resistance can come from what we're not prepared to let go of. And resistance can come because we're forcing ourselves into an extreme state of doing or extreme state of achievement and we haven't actually got a balanced foundation where we can fuel ourselves properly.
So please, when you are in the space of going, I'm going to undo myself, then do take some moments aside, no one needs to hear, no one needs to know, and just write your list of the things that you find the most difficult to forgive, or elements of your past that you might still be carrying that upset you or knocked you back or you find hard to forget.
And if you can give yourself permission through your own free will to let go of these.
Now, I know for a lot of people that might sound a bit weird, but it is actually simply to understand that your 100% of resources will be focused and concentrated in your dreams so much more effectively. If you're not carrying burdens from the past, and if you can let go of pain and let go of the inability to forgive, then you stop.
You dismantle the obstacles between you and opportunity, you free up your ability to receive unconditionally for yourself, and you center and focus all your energy in the now, which makes you creative dynamite, essentially. So you can raise your frequency quite quickly, but you're doing it progressively, you're doing it in a self loving fashion, and again joyously and with a purpose, with a sense of meaning. Like you're really enjoying your experience of it.
So resistance, don't force yourself into excessive doing. And also, really, if you can be honest with yourself and let go of some of the burdens from the past and what you're carrying, that no longer can be learned from and doesn't serve you.
Alrighty, my last one today. Number five, co creation. All right, now we can dim ourselves down because we think we're alone. All right? No one understands or is going through the, the terrible pain and stress and pressure that we are under.
That is technically correct because we're all unique. So no one can have our exact experiences. But of course there's similarities in the humanity. A lot of people have lost someone. A lot of people have had times where they found it difficult to trust. A lot of people have felt isolated or felt that they have no one to turn to.
So my last point today is please don't think you're alone because you always, number one, have your universal connectedness. If you can sit in your heart center and ask for help, all right, that is always going to be sending that message out. And it is only a matter of time before you experience being helped. If you are open and non resistant to receiving unconditionally that particular help, will it be in the form that you think?
Maybe not. But that is the chaotic magic and miracle of the universe.
So be prepared to receive help. Don't think you have to do everything on your own.
But also if you're sitting there going, nobody helps me and nothing's working, just be aware to ask yourself this very important question. Are you helping yourself? All right? And sometimes in our world we can literally forget that we're not choosing to help ourselves or we're recoiling from having done a huge amount of activity in the attempt to help ourselves. But it hasn't necessarily worked yet. So we've kind of gone back and gone. I doubt myself or it's not working.
So the key is to see everything as a co creation. All right? So check in with yourself and make sure that you are receiving unconditionally and you are giving unconditionally. So you're making the efforts and you can honestly say, hand on heart, I've done everything to this point for my dream to come into place and then allow the universe to help you. But equally you can say it's changing moment by moment because we are transforming and evolving moment by moment.
Okay? It's been my pleasure today to talk about undimming, to talk about unlimiting ourselves and embracing our true potentiality, the life we're meant to have, the purpose, the fulfillment and the success.
So if you like this content, then you can also check out the episode number two, the Inner Critic episode to how to deal with that and to transform and recycle that, the number 12 episode, which is how to turn victim into conscious creator, and also my number seven, which is how to dissolve Imposter syndrome. Thank you very much for joining me.
